Confident ugly men get laid. Poor men date and marry rich, beautiful, and famous women: see Kevin Federline. Every guy has plenty of potential excuses why women don’t find him attractive. These delusions can focus on anything: height, weight, size, hair, complexion, job, intellect, finances, car… Even characteristics that we assume to be positive, some guy believes is a flaw. No one is perfect, but no one is without at least a shred of sex appeal. The only difference between “unattractive” men who do and don’t get laid is that the latter worries about his flaws. The excuse of being unattractive is a scapegoat. The real problem is more in your head than in your sizable belly or lacking bank account.
Sure a lucky few seem to be born with it all: good looks, wealth, sense of humor, and a natural knack for picking up women. So what? Grow up. Life isn't fair. Being jealous of these privileged few only handicaps you.
The flaw that is really hurting your chances with women is
This article appears in Mar 10-16, 2010.