30 and horny: the high point of the female sex drive

What does it mean to be a 30 something female at her sexual peak? This is my situation. I have been on a continuous hormonal roller coaster during this decade of my life (which is still not quite complete I might add). This ride has been full of sexual peaks and valleys. I believe the onset of my swinger life began on one of those highs. I felt good about myself, wanted more sex, and craved the experience others; thus a swinger. As of late, I have revisited an up swing in the sex drive. I think about sex constantly. I feel aroused continually. This could be in part because of my age/hormonal change and in part because of that tiny barbell ever so gently placed through my hood, just above the clitoris (a highly recommended body modification). The bead on the end of this barbell quite frequently rubs my clit and results in the feeling that I am an 18 year old boy in heat. How do you guys stand this? I like sex, this has not changed, but my need for sex has changed. Some days are worse than others - not meaning that sex arousal is ever a bad thing but normally I want it some days and others sleep seems like a good idea. Who is responsible for this malicious trick? Men hit their peek in the late teens to early 20s. At that time most men are young and free and haven't yet lived the whole hearted responsibility of parenthood. So here we women are; 30 something, career, children, and horny.

The swinger lifestyle does help with this common affliction we women share, but not everyone is in a position or have the desire to live this type of lifestyle. Also, the lifestyle doesn't necessarily combat all the needs or desire for sex, but does explain the majority of swingers in this age range. Swinging is only a small part of my life and doesn't always take place weekly or even monthly. How does this help my need for sex on a daily basis? My husband is not complaining about my new found sexual enthusiasm, but the look of exhaustion on his face after another romp in the sack makes me feel slightly guilty...but not too much. I have to wonder how other women fair during this crazy time of life. Do these feelings bring about the need to seek gratification in other ways or from other people?

much. I have to wonder how other women fair during this crazy time of life. Do these feelings bring about the need to seek gratification in other ways or from other people?

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