What constitutes a cheater? Is it someone who has sex outside the marital bed? Is it flirting and sexting without your significant other's permission? The definition of cheater is very case specific. Everyone forms their own opinions on what is unacceptable and exactly what can be overlooked in a relationship.
Over the years I've met an abundance of cheaters. At first cheating was something that really upset me. I actually wanted to avoid any kind of interaction with cheaters altogether. But my husband convinced me that cheating is the cheater's problem, and his business. We should no more 'tell on him' than care what he's doing. His infidelity has nothing to do with me, even if I'm the one he's being unfaithful with.
This article appears in Jul 7-13, 2011.