Are you having an affair and don’t know it?

Swingers are often stereotyped as having lascivious affairs, but depending on what you consider cheating, almost everyone is having some type of affair.

For me, an affair isn't necessarily a physical relationship; it can be an emotional connection as well.  Depending on who you are, either connection can constitute an affair.

By this definition I have both emotional and physical affairs.  I'm not in love with these people; some are friends that I share a side of myself with that I don't share with everyone. Others I just have sex with and don't care if I ever see again.

This article appears in Jul 22-28, 2009.