A dear friend of mine is in the midst of the arduous, exhilerating, terrifying and liberating process of coming out. She recently wrote to me about the central role certain music has played in helping her to interpret and cope with her whirlwind emotions. I've combined her suggestions with a few of my own favorites to create a soundtrack that is guaranteed to make anyone's coming out possible, bearable and even totally awesome.
Prince, Cream: I've chosen this raunchy classic primarily for the obvious reason, but also for its subtext of affirmation and empowerment: "Do your dance / Why should you wait any longer? / Take your chance / It can only make you stronger." So true.
Bruce Springsteen, Rosalita (Come Out Tonight): I don't think Bruce knew he was writing the following lines for me and gay people everywhere, but we should still thank him for them: "Closets are for hangers. Winners use the door / So use it, Rosie, that's what its there for!" Although set in a fairly cliche heterosexual context, this song is all about sexual defiance, transgression and freedom. It resonates with queer audiences in a profound way.
Ani DiFranco, Shameless: This spunky jam about a clandestine same-sex love affair was critical in my own coming out journey. Ani communicates the experience of being closeted in characteristically clunky couplets like "We're in a room without a door and I am sure without a doubt / They're gonna wanna know how we got in here and they're gonna wanna know how we plan to get out." Check out a rousing performance (complete with a full-throttle audience sing-along) after the jump.
