It is possible for two gay men to be friends with each other. Gay men can be friends without having sex. Gay men can also be friends without any sexual attraction. It is possible.
Such was the case with Simon. I became friends with Simon at a job I used to work up north. He was a nice kid, a few years older. He was a bit strange. I was not attracted to him. He was gay. I’m gay too.
Sometimes Simon used to hang out with our co-workers. There were also times that I hung out with our co-workers. Only once or twice did Simon and I ever hang out with our co-workers at the same time. Simon and I never developed a close enough friendship that we hung out one-on-one. All the same, he was fun to work with.
This article appears in Dec 8-14, 2011.