Did you just cock block yourself?

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Women have it easy.  They can go out and get laid nearly effortlessly, but men on the other hand aren't quite so lucky.  Even the male half of a swinging couple must put forth the effort to catch the eye of a pretty lady or the hottie soccer mom at a party.  Vanillas (non swingers) may think that being a swinger at a swinger party pretty much guarantees sex, but the truth of the matter is no it doesn't

The rule of thumb for both swinger men and vanilla men (I apologize if you  feel plain) is keep your mind open and your hands to yourself.  This may seem contradictory to some, but if you are open to talking just a little and not groping her out of control ass you will succeed more times than not.  Trust me, I am a woman and I know these things.

Don't talk yourself out of sex.  Why do men feel the need to exaggerate their sexual powers that be (or not be)?  This is a  complete turn off and will not only drive away the object of your desires, but also all her hot friends as well.

Pick up on her cues.  If she is leaning in and showing interest, give her a little interest back.  Kiss her on the cheek, nuzzle her ear, or put your hand on the small of her back, but don't choke her with your lizard tongue or grab her breasts like you are a some idiot.  Anyway, cues for all are important to recognize.  At a swingers party these means its time to say ready to go hook up?  It's a shame to miss out.

Be prepared to be turned down.  Sometimes no doesn't mean never, but not now.  Listen to what she actually says.  Looking like an ass because she doesn't want to hook up with you tonight guarantees there will not be any future chances .

Once you have un-cock blocked yourself and  prepared to get some action you might get to experience some amazing sex  Now just  make sure you get another shot at it.  Pull my hair, slap my ass and make the moment memorable!

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