a woman whom they feel they could never "catch" in real life. If she shows any sign of actually liking him his devotion vanishes like the morning dew. Here I'm veering into wild speculation---having not gotten rich in this business yet I'm no authority on what sells best---but my suspicion is that guys who will pull out their wallets to be with a pro domme are more likely to do so with a woman who they believe is far above their dating range.
I did an experiment once to test this theory. I put up a fake profile on a BDSM dating site, deliberately setting out to violate every ethical standard I could think of. I promised guys that I would give them nothing and told them I expected to be paid handsomely for it. Emphasizing, of course, that I was interested only in their wallets. I ratcheted up the snootiness as high as I could manage. I said things that I couldn't keep a straight face for while typing; I'd never be able to deliver those lines in person!
My results? I got about 75% more responses with the obnoxious profile than I did with my regular one. The most interesting ones were the guys who wrote to both profiles. Often these would be form letters---thus confirming another long-held suspicion. But sometimes they'd use radically different approaches, such as the guy who wrote politely to one profile and offered an aggressive challenge to the other. Or the guy who profusely complimented the pics of one Mistress (me) and told the other (also me) she was fat, by which he meant ugly.
There were more outright jerks in the mix for the bitchy pseudo-profile. A few castigated me for being a mercenary and some, like the guy mentioned above, nastily criticized my physical attributes. These are responses I never get on my regular profiles. And I suspect there were more wankers looking for free cybersex. I never carried it to the point of actually taking money from anyone so I don't know who would have ponied up in the end. But still... nearly double the response rate is suggestive.
I kept the fake profile going for nearly a month. Surprisingly (or maybe not) I had so much fun pretending to be "Mistress Bitchy" that I was reluctant to let her die. And in all that time, though both profiles had clear photos including full face shots, only one guy wrote saying, "Aren't you the same woman as Lady Erisiana Cherie?"
My completely unscientific experiment may not have proved anything, but I definitely learned a few things.
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