Like most women, I have a collection of men who are the ?one that got away.? These failed relationships often result from a case of bad timing, location issues, or a difference in maturity levels. However, in every one of these cases the guy seems set on keeping a flicker of our mutual attraction alive by occasionally mentioning how much he misses me. Do not get me wrong. I am all about rom-com-style proclamations of love, but such statements must be backed up with action in order for them to mean anything.
Stating that you miss someone is fine. Stating it all the time, while seeing someone else, is not. In the end it is your gut that makes most decisions in life. If your gut feels like you should have given the relationship an honest try and you want to, then do it. Torturing another person by constantly reminding them of your feelings is just rude. If you really ?miss" someone then reach out in a real way. Break up with your girlfriend and ask out your lost love. Find a job in the city where your "missed connection" lives. If you are not willing to back up your proclamations of affection with action, then do not open your mouth. Keep those feelings to yourself. Otherwise, all you are doing is keeping women on the line as a backup plan. That, or you just need to be reminded that you have options.
Simply put, go get your damn boom-box and show up on my lawn blasting "Your Eyes" by Peter Gabriel. Otherwise keep the emotional texting, mind-fuck to yourself.
