Fuck buddies or boyfriends?

There's nothing wrong with just sex either, if that's what you want. I'd like to think as a society that we've evolved past the "whore" label attached to women who enjoy sex. Which I do, a lot.

Recently, I've been conducting fuck buddy interviews and the applicants are, for the most part, unqualified.   If these applicants work like they fuck, it's no wonder we have such a high unemployment rate and shitty economy. They've left me wanting much more, so I've moved on from a fuck buddy search to a boyfriend hunt.

There's a difference between my fuck buddies and boyfriends.  My fuck buddies, are exactly that. I don't want anything other than the physical attraction between us. I don't want to cultivate a friendship with fuck buddies. That's not in the job description. I have friends for all that.

What I don't have is a sexy piece of ass to come over and fuck me on a regular basis, then leave. Hot sex is the only thing I want to depend on a fuck buddy for. Anything more is relationship territory and that brings relationship problems. I don't want the problems of a relationship getting in the way of my sex life. The less we have between us, the more our thoughts can focus on sex, not problems.

My boyfriends, are so much more than fuck buddies. I want to spend time with them outside of the bedroom. I want to actually get to know more about them than what their favorite color is (which I something ask my fuck buddies, so I know what color lingerie to wear). I want to do things and go places with my boyfriends. They inspire me and push me to be better. I have respect for boyfriends and expectations that include more than just making me cum. I want someone with whom I can be myself, giggle, joke, have fun, actually relax and find comfort. Boyfriends create a completely different atmosphere of emotions and sexual behaviors than fuck buddies do.

[image-1]The bad part about boyfriends is that they require more time and effort than fuck buddies do, which is why I have been staying away from them. They want more than to just fuck me and leave; they want to spend time with me.

I've been thinking about it and I've decided that I just don't have the time or the desire to have a boyfriend right now. All the men I've been out on dates with are ready to settle down and get married after the second date. I'm not ready for that. I'm having too much fun conducting fuck buddy interviews to settle down with only one man.

But, I do know that if I come across the right man while dating, or conducting interviews, I'll do whatever I can to keep him.

I don't look at every sexual encounter as having to happen with someone I'm in love with or even dating. I'm a woman and I love to have sex with men I'm attracted to. Some call it meaningless sex. Some call it evolved sex. I just call it sex.

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