I am a frequent day dreamer. I spend a lot of time fantasizing about this or that, him or her; it's how everything I write is first born. I devour information that holds the potential of a new tale. I keep scribbles of electronic notes to fuel my fantasy so that it may become a written reality at some point.
I recently found a term to identify my repeated sexual thought process and subsequent storage that seems at times to leave me nowhere, but sexually frustrated.
Intellectual masturbation is defined by the Urban Dictionary as the mental counterpart to masturbation; i.e. a process that is very pleasurable but hasn't accomplished anything at the end. (Or has it?)
The term masturbation alone brings many things to mind. A few expressions that appear in my head at this moment includes pleasure, excitement, arousal, and my favorite - vibrator; these words tend to turn me on without a physical touch or even actual pleasure. The blood rushes to my nether regions, leaving me feeling both tingly and stimulated. This is the epitome of what intellctual masturbation does to me.
Just a quick thought about sex sends my brain swirling with anticipation of what may occur to please my senses. Images of rough sex, soft touches, hard pinches, quick spanks, and gentle kisses please my imaginary senses and raise my awareness of sexual desire and need.
Similar things occur when looking at sexy pictures, watching pornography, reading erotic literature, and even watching a live couple engage in sex. Swingers are the essence of intellectual masturbation. As a swinger we spend time searching through profiles, pictures, and descriptions of other couples. After selecting a couple to fuel our fantasy, we continue forth to the actual sexual part of the fantasy. Swingers are the first to admit we all are voyeurs. While some will stop at the voyeur stage, true swingers continue on with their fantasy life into actual sexual acts.
Sex with people who are not our own partners includes the act of watching your own partner engage in sex with someone else. The visual in itself is intellectual masturbation. It heightens the level of energy, raises the sexual aura, and pushes the individual to a heightened sexual pleasure. You might be perplexed at the nature of someone who can watch their significant other please someone else, but the process of seeing this action is stimulating enough to bring some to orgasm without a single touch.
We all engage in intellectual masturbation. Some of us find gratification from it and others are just frustrated.
