Is the anger over Stephen Fry's comments on sexuality justified? (updated with audio)

sex is the price they are willing to pay for a relationship with a man, which is what they want,” he said.

While he may be making vast generalizations, and his words may carry an undertone of dislike for women, his opinion is not entirely unfounded.

Fisher and Boy from Tampa's 97X discussed this topic briefly this morning and were bombarded by female callers offended by the comments. These women claimed they love sex and that they are hornier than their male partners. But honestly, what woman is going to put herself on public radio and say Yes I hate sex and the main reason I got married was for security?

Years and years ago my marriage was not the rip roaring good time that it is now (hell even now we have dry periods like everyone else - I'm no sex machine).  I went through a time where I really wasn't interested in sex.  I had young children that wore me out on a daily basis and quite honestly I was completely unhappy with myself.  Those two issues unfortunately penalized my husband in the bedroom.

The mistake Fry made was that he used the phrase, "the only reason," and he grouped all women together. Any time someone makes sweeping generalizations, people will be offended. Although his claims are vastly exaggerated, I think the point he meant to make was that in general, when it comes to relationships men are more compelled by sexual desires while women are guided more by their need for security and comfort. This realization is nothing new. Almost every stand-up comedian and humorist has noted this difference; it's just not a politically correct thing to say.

Those of you who now hate Stephen Fry, or are taking his comments out of context, you  need to think back to just one day when you didn't want to have sex and your male partner did (and you know it has happened). Realize that even if his comments were exaggerated, there is some truth to what he's saying.

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You may think I'm just another female writer jumping on the "I hate Stephen Fry" bandwagon, but you would be wrong.

Stephen Fry, a rather popular gay British blogger, has received some backlash for comments he made regarding women's motives for having sex. While his feelings may not be popular, or delicately expressed, they certainly aren't unique or even that offensive considering the extremes of free speech on the internet. Here's an excerpt from his interview (re-posted here by Melissa Wright)

Fry, 53, made the controversial comments during an interview with gay magazine Attitude, in which he claimed to feel “sorry for straight men” who he believes feel that “they disgust women.”

He went on to suggest that "if women liked sex as much as men, there would be straight cruising areas in the way there are gay cruising areas.”

“The only reason women will have sex with them is that


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