Knowing when and where a spouse will likely cheat is important, especially considering how time-intensive surveillance is.
The gym is one of the greatest places to see infidelity happen, Payton says. Cheaters go there at 6:30 or 7 to meet up when their spouse is at work. I cant tell you how many times Ive caught a partner coming out of the gym kissing their lover or getting into the same car together.
ISG sends out a two-man surveillance team to reduce the chance of detection, so the hours add up fast. Accordingly, its clients are usually quite well off, people with household incomes in the low six figures who are often going through, or preparing for, a high-dollar divorce.
However, catching a cheater can be easier for the PIs than, say, collecting evidence on a fraudulent personal injury lawsuit. Because they're working with a client who is married to the subject under investigation, and who consequently has joint property rights, the investigators can do things like install recording devices in a home or put a GPS unit on the subjects car. In the case of the Miami businessman, the wife called the Tampa hotel where her husband was staying to request his call history. Payton then ran the numbers and discovered they all belonged to escort services.
While the PIs do have some standard surveillance equipment black SUVs with tinted windows, high definition cameras, recording devices hidden in key chains Paytons favorite piece of spy gear is his smartphone. Everyone has one, which means a cheater will never suspect that the man sitting a few tables away texting is actually filming the cheater flirting with an escort. Similarly, while technologies like Facebook have made it easier for spouses to cheat, they also make it easier to get caught.
Its amazing what people will put on their Facebooks, Payton says. We go on there all the time.
The team has established a fake female persona on Facebook, but they deny requests from clients to entrap a spouse. They refuse to set up meetings or send attractive confederates into a bar to proposition a subject. They leave this kind of sexual espionage to their competitors.
More women contact ISG than men, but the company does get a high number of husbands and even some mothers-in-law as clients. A spouses suspicions are often very telling, usually provoked by some minor change in a partner's behavior.
Hes staying out more, hes going to the gym, hes changed his appearance, Scheuermann says. Those can all be indicators.
In a recent case, a husband grew suspicious when, doing the laundry for the first time, he discovered thongs. This struck him as odd, considering his wife never wore thongs for him.
But proof of infidelity doesnt necessarily lead to divorce.
The way the economy is now, some of them stay because they have to, Payton says. Ive had one or two clients who will have an affair with the other persons spouse to get back at their cheating partners.
If evidence that a spouse is cheating doesnt end in a divorce, then why would someone pay thousands of dollars for this information?
Sometimes well follow someone and theyll be fine," Payton explains. "That gives the spouse the peace of mind that now they can go on with their life
But sometimes women will get upset if their husband is just having contact with another woman. I have a case where there's some texting, like 'How you doing?' It could be innocent. We dont know. But the wife isnt happy.
Even though Florida is a no-fault state and infidelity doesnt necessarily impact a divorce settlement, it may suggest even deeper levels of deceit.
If a guy is cheating and he knows there may be a divorce on the horizon, he may be hiding money, Payton says. Well follow him and all of a sudden he stops at a bank that she doesnt know about. Then you have the child custody issues. Is the person capable of raising their children? What kind of people is he associating with?
Both investigators have been married for over 20 years. When asked how their job has impacted their relationships, they laugh.
We know what not to do, Scheuermann says, joking.
So why do these cheaters make it so easy to get caught? I ask.
A lot of it is arrogance, Payton says. This guy were following now is involved with some money and is probably feeling pretty good about himself and is just ready to break out. What weve witnessed from day one is that a lot of it has just been out in the open.
Studies have shown that people in the throes of sexual intercourse experience a severe reduction in peripheral vision; it's equally true that the excitement of a new affair can erase all sense of rational judgment.
Ninety-eight percent of the people we follow are just oblivious to everything they do in life, Payton says. Like the case were working now. This guy traveled to The Todd to get some toys, then went back to the hotel room to wait for her. It was just total tunnel vision because thats all he wanted in life. He just focused on that one thing. When youre following someone, they have no clue because they arent looking for it.
Payton has only been made once, and only then because the client couldn't help boasting to his unfaithful wife that he knew exactly where she was and who she was with while Payton still had her under surveillance. The first rule of hiring a PI is not to talk about it, as this information will inevitably make it back to the subject.
Both men make it a point not to glamorize their profession, saying that its nothing like the movies or the show Cheaters. But the pair does occasionally get exciting cases, like the time Payton was hired to spy on a celebrity client in South Beach during fashion week.
Im sitting in a trailer park on some boring insurance fraud case and Alan keeps texting me pictures of him with models in South Beach, Scheuermann says.
He had to blend in, I say. Did your wife get to see those pictures?
Probably not, Payton says, grinning. I know better.
While everyone at the fashion shows was taking pictures of the new looks, Payton was snapping photos of the female celebrity with her suspected lover. No hard evidence of infidelity materialized in the case until the last hour of the investigation. Of course, to get the evidence Payton had to resort to some less than glamorous tactics. He laid on the sidewalk beside a homeless man named Marvin to discreetly videotape the celebrity walking by with her lover.
We were working 16 hours a day, then all of a sudden within that last hour, boom, I get the money shot of them kissing, Payton says. That was a fun one. But there are the other ones.
Their typical cheating-spouse case is in the suburbs, which makes surveillance trickier.
The infidelity cases are fun at times, Payton says, but I mean, weve gone through peoples garbage. Legally we can if its at the curb. Its disgusting, but its amazing what people throw away. Well find out what other bank accounts they have or if theyre heavy drinkers.
While it may be easy to think of these PIs as the un-matchmakers tearing apart relationships instead of bringing lovers together they are rarely called in to spy on happy marriages. In many cases, one partner is trying to work things out through counseling while the other partner just doesn't care. Other times the pair is already separated but has yet to divorce. However, there is the rare occasion when a spouse believes everything is going great until she reads something like the story Payton penned last V-Day in a trade magazine detailing signs of an unfaithful partner.
The story went live online before it went to print, Payton says. The next morning we get a call at 7 in the morning with a woman saying, You just described my husband. He does all these things.
Was he cheating? I ask.
He was, Payton says. Most of the time if you have a feeling your partner is cheating, its happening.
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