I am what many may call a protection queen. If you want to put your man parts into my girl parts you better be covered. It's a very simple rule, no sex without a condom. There are many reasons I feel this way - I don't want an STD, I don't want to get pregnant, and I like my vagina as it is: pretty, smooth, and pink.
Not all swingers live by this same rules. I hear stories from other swingers quite frequently that they were either unsure if the male partner used a condom or pretty sure he didn't. A word of advice, be certain your partner is wearing a condom every time. Put it on yourself every time if you have to.
I have found that some swingers feel that if they are DD free and you claim to be as well, then they are safe to ride bareback. I don't understand this thinking. Yes, I am DD free, but I don't know that you truly are. Why subject myself to this risk?
On several occasions men have tried to slip themselves in without a condom. Guys let me explain this - don't come near me with that thing flying commando. I don't care if you will pull out when you cum or that you claim to get tested on a regular basis - the answer is still NO. Any attempt in any form of touching me skin to skin will lead to a promt kick out of the bedroom.
I admit that condoms are not 100% fool proof. Even the safest sex leaves the opportunity for something unpleasant to occur. STD's are a possibility since my skin is not completely protected by a condom or the unfortunate occurance of a broken condom are always possible. My only response either of these scenarios is that we only live our lives one time, please enjoy it. I wear a seatbelt in my car and yet if I am in accident I might still be terribly hurt. Do I still drive a car? Yes. Risk is an inherent part of life. Everyone must make his or her individual choice on sex and condoms. My choice is sex yes, but only with a condom.