Savage Love
I have to say I'm disappointed.
Proposition 8 passed in California, as did anti-gay-marriage amendments in Florida and Arizona. Decency and compassion suffered a horrible blow, and I was hoping to hear a few words from you about it. Maybe you had your column written already, but couldn't you have pulled an all-nighter in order to write something more relevant?
A Loyal Reader
Sorry, ALR, but due to the vagaries of the dead-tree media, I file columns roughly a week in advance, and it went to press on Tuesday morning, before any election returns were in.
But here's my election-night reax, a bit late, for what it's worth: I voted for Obama, gave money to Obama and cried when CNN called it for Obama. But the approval of the Mormon-bankrolled anti-gay-marriage amendment in California quickly snuffed my Obama buzz. I had expected anti-gay-marriage amendments in Arizona and Florida to pass, of course, but voters in California — particularly those who voted for Obama, against the rights of same-sex couples, and for the rights of farm animals — came close to ruining election night for me.
But let's look on the bright side of the anti-gay-marriage amendments, shall we? The openly Republican governor of Florida, Charlie Crist — who got engaged to a real live girl when he was in the running to be McCain's VP — won't have to marry a real live girl now. Because it's illegal for gays to get married now in Florida — right, Charlie? And even in California there's a little good news: Voters approved this year's anti-gay-marriage amendment by much smaller margins (52 to 48) than they approved an anti-gay-marriage law back in 2000 (61 to 38). So ... uh ... we're winning, even as we're losing.
Or something.
But now, to honor Barack Obama's historic victory, I will answer questions that were e-mailed by readers on election night. While you were obsessing about election returns, there were people out there writing to me about ...
I am a completely straight guy. I am madly in love with my girlfriend. One night, she was giving me oral and stuck a finger in my ass. I was uncomfortable at first, but in a little time I began to like it. I found it felt so good. Now my girlfriend asked if I wanted to try a butt plug. At first I said, "Yes!" But now, the more I think about it, I am starting to think it may be gay. My question: Is there something gay about using a butt plug?
Guy With Anal Interests
I've dedicated my life to reassuring panicky straight boys that a little anal stimulation won't make 'em gay. My oft-stated position: If a guy and a girl are doing it during sex — whatever it is, whatever it looks like — it's straight sex. And, yes, that includes a pair of straight girls making out to turn on a straight boy, as well as the far less common straight-boys-making-out-to-turn-on-a-straight-girl scenario.
But no more. From now on I intend to sow gay panic when and where I can. Maybe straight men, who voted for the various anti-gay shit on their ballots, won't be so quick to strip gay people of their civil rights if they're worried that one false move — or one finger up the butt — can turn them gay. So for the record, breeder boys: A finger in the butt can make you gay, using a butt plug can make you gay, doing it doggy style can make you gay, playing with your nipples can make you gay, fucking a woman in the ass can make you gay, standing up to pee can make you gay, and watching dudes hump dudes on Ultimate Fighting Championship for sure makes you gay.
I'm a 21-year-old bi guy, and I was recently hanging out at my university's Queer Collective when the issue of the "F" word came up. I argued that it was OK to use the word so long as it's not derogatory. The lesbians, however, thought that it was disgusting slang, almost like using the "N" word to describe black people. What do I do, Dan? Is the "F" word off limits?
Flabbergasted About Glossary
The "F" word should only be used to describe voters in California, Florida and Arizona who cast ballots for Obama and their state's anti-gay-marriage amendments.
We are talking about the word "fuckers," right?
