Rape realities

Fantasies are great. They're fun, they're what people indulge in to make sex better.  I just think that fantasies like this are better shared with a trusting partner.  Women who have been raped or sexually assaulted don't want to know how the act makes other women "wet in the panties."  Besides, it's not a good idea to tell potential rapists that women have secret fantasies of being "overpowered and forced to surrender."  Some men already think no means yes.  Why are we trying to confuse them even more?

Even if these impulses are currently in fantasy form, they can easily lead to reality if men think we secretly want to be raped. While Miss Ginger Millay's post shared a rape fantasy, I'm going to share some rape realities.

From 2006-2008 there was a 25% increase in the amount of [image-1]alone, 248,300 individuals reported being raped or sexually assaulted. That's 680 assaults a day, 28 an hour, or 1 rape every 2 minutes. In less time than it takes to boil an egg, someone is being violated, humiliated, dehumanized and forced into a life alternating experience because someone has made their rape fantasy a reality. Rape isn't about sex. It's about power, intimidation, and brutality. Rape leads to depression and often suicide because the victim feels ashamed, as though they brought the rape on themselves.

Rape isn't a new crime. In fact it wasn't always a crime. In Sex Lives of the Roman Emperors, Nigel Cawthorne writes that "[t]he Romans drove off the Sabine men and got down to the raping... this was considered a normal way to attain a bride in ancient times." No wonder I'm still single.

It was also acceptable behavior to orally rape people of a conquered nation.  By orally rape, I mean the rapist would knock out or pull out all of the victim's teeth before plunging his cock down his/her throat. This was to display the invaders' power over the conquered. This rape wasn't about sex or fantasies; it was about domination and humiliation.

Anal rape seems to be a common theme in rape fantasy.  I've tried anal sex willingly and it fucking hurt. I can't imaging the pain that would be inflicted if it was unwilling and involving a big dick.  Can I request a rapist that has a pickle dick?  And as a woman, I can take great comfort in knowing I don't have to worry about just being anally raped, either. According to Rape and the legal process, "anal rape on women is unlikely to be perpetrated on it's own, but rather in combination with other sexual assaults." So I can look forward to multiple penetration with rips in my anus and vagina—a real fantasy come true.  Not to mention the punches, kicks, bites, and death that could occur if I fight back. But hey, it's just a fantasy, right?

One place that rape runs rampant is in our prison system, where rapes are rarely talked about and almost never reported.  These rapes aren't talked about because the act is a "taboo fantasy"; they're not talked about because of the humiliation the inmates feel after being violated and the fear of retaliation. Gang rapes of younger inmates often occur, where the victims are held down, arms and legs broken, and in extreme cases, all their teeth get knocked out so they can't bite the rapists.  How considerate of the rapists.

Rape wasn't a fantasy to 17 year old Rodney Hullin. It was his reality and ultimately his killer, just check out the video.

Video NSFW

I respect everyone's right to free speech. The First Amendment is a cornerstone of this country. Without it I wouldn't be able to write about fuck buddies, sex, and all the other dirty things I do in the bedroom. I also believe that just because I have this freedom, doesn't mean I have to use it.

Maybe it's age, experience, or perhaps I'm not as much of a free thinker as I thought I was. However, a recent post by Miss Ginger Millay, "Rape Fantasy: the ultimate taboo" struck my attention. In it, Millay suggested that it's not uncommon for women to fantasize about being raped.  The research she used to support her argument stemmed from a 1974 study by Hariton and Singer, in which they concluded that many women had sexual fantasies of being "overpowered and forced to surrender."

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