Who has sex with strangers?  I think the answer to that question is most of you. Whether you are a swinger, single person, or a perpetual cheater it is likely you have had sex with someone you may consider stranger.  So why do so many people think the swinging lifestyle is so strange – because we too have sex with strangers?

I have been told how cool it is that I am open minded enough to not only have sex with strangers but to discuss it with the world too. I try to speak honestly about myself and the lifestyle to reach out to those who thought they were all alone in their own secret lifestyle.  Is it really that strange?

Sex is something most every adult has in common.  The uncommon factor I bring is the honesty to speak the truth of what it is all truely about. Sex with myself, sex with my husband, sex with friends, and sex with strangers are things I do and I bet most everyone else does as well.  Let's admit it, if you aren't having sex with the beautiful stranger in the coffee shop, you are dreaming about it while masturbating or while having sex with another.  In theory, you could say you are having sex with the stranger in your head.  I'm not so strange, I am just like you!

So what is a stranger?  How well do I have to know you to have sex with you?  I have had sex with men after having known them for years.  I suppose they are not really strangers, just strangers to my bed.  I have had sex with men that I have only know for a few days or even hours.  These guys aren't total strangers either. 

So how many men have been strangers to me before sex?  I can only count one, but does he really count?  I didn't talk to him and I never got his name. This really isn't any different that a one night stand with someone you took home from a bar and never spoke to again. Maybe we both are having sex with strangers and I'm not so strange after all?

Follow Rebecca on twitter or facebook for the latest and greatest insight into the swinging lifestyle.

This article appears in Dec 2-8, 2000.