Sexual identity dream

Here’s the dream:  “…my dreams are always about him apologizing and saying he screwed up for ever leaving me and he begs me to take him back well in my dream i always take him back..and we end up having sex.”



You say you’ve let go of him but in the dream he has left you. I’d like to look at this dream as purely symbolic.  Symbolic of your sexual identity. Let’s say that the guy is your animus.  The animus, in Jungian psychology, is the masculine inner personality as present in women.  Let’s say that having sex with him in the dream is your way of staying deeply connected to your animus. Maybe you need to.  Maybe you can’t really get on with his female cousin without that masculine energy.  Of course it feels real, of course you take him back, he’s part of you…an important part.


Now, to answer your questions to the best of my ability.  You DO nothing about it.  You accept your animus as part of who you are.  It’s perfectly fine.  You’ll be fine.


Dream Momma


Dream Momma,

“Okay, so I am dating this girl which I am a female.. .and I've also dated her cousin. Who is a guy. He calls and talks to her but asks for me at first. Is it to hear my voice?...now I've let go of him other than as a friends because of dating his cousin. But I still have dreams about him, our relationship ended bad. And my dreams are always about him apologizing and saying he screwed up for ever leaving me and he begs me to take him back well in my dream I always take him back...and we end up having sex. My dream feels so real...what do I do about this...what could it mean I should do?”

So, as I understand it, you were sexually involved with cousins, one female, and one male.  You are a female.

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