On several occasions I've been asked how many sex partners I've had. Having lived as a swinger for several years, I've probably had more than most, but the exact number is tricky. It depends on what you count as a sex partner. For me, I can only define what one is, by describing what a sex partner is not.
Oral sex only: Some swingers have rules, like soft swap only. This means I only have oral sex with the other man then have actual sex with my husband. For me, oral sex doesn't count as sex.
This article appears in Aug 26 – Sep 1, 2009.