We have been living this lifestyle for more than eight years, but the idea of the practice has drifted around the relationship for longer. Parties with flashing, voyeurism, and finally the graduation to an actual swapping was the simple progression for us. This type of lifestyle is by no means a fix to any relationship problem, but an outlet for pent up desires. I could quote statistics on marriages that fail as a result of infidelity, but that would not be fun.
The simple fact of swinging is that I can have my cake and eat it too! No need to cheat, I have permission to have sex with others. Sometimes swinging sex is good and sometimes the sex is bad. Every situation is different. Threesomes, foursomes, and outright orgies are on the plate. I have experienced all types, but there is always room for something new.
To get started into the erotic lifestyle of swinging you must be aware that there are a few rules in place with every couple or single person (yes, there are real life single swingers). Some couples do not allow kissing, some say no anal sex; it’s best to talk this over before meeting and respect all wishes involved. Our rules are quite simple: Always use protection and partners must always be respectful. Finding couples is easy, finding couples that we both like is a different scenario. Swinger websites are packed with people searching for others to have sex. These sites offer profiles, pictures, bios and symbols that the couple or single have been verified in person. This means someone has actually met this person and acknowledges the pictures are accurate. Of course there is always room for misinterpretation, but a good guide to begin. Contacting people on these sites is essentially the same as a regular dating website, but will be a bit more forward. We have received emails saying, "You two are hot, let’s meet for drinks," and, "Want to meet later and fuck?’"
We have regular friends that we have sex with, "Vanilla" (non-swinger) friends that we neither have sex nor discuss swinging with, and swinger friends that we do not have sex with. Being a swinger doesn’t mean that you will sleep with anyone, but it does mean that you are open-minded to the possibility.
