Swinger date gone wrong: part 2

hear is splashing next to me. I thought it was my lady and the guy playing hand games. Later I found out (after we left) that he was having sex with her.  This is something I never would have approved of since it was suppose to be a full swap situation.  Additionally the fact they were not using a condom really bothered me.  I had no idea this was going on so I totally didn't stop it.


If you are ever in a situation where you question something, you should never hesitate to speak up.  This is your life, your partner, your body, her body, etc.  If anyone is uncomfortable with a situation the answer is to always speak up and/or leave. Don't even think about becoming a swinger if you have a problem expressing your opinions or speaking your mind.


"After a while she noticed I wasn't doing anything and asks, 'What are you doing?' I simply said, 'Well, I'm not doing anything at all.'  She said, 'Well go over there with her silly.'   At  this point I was pretty sure what was going on, but I went ahead and felt my way over to his lady who was just sitting there like I was. He told me, 'Ya, you can go ahead, its ok.' But when I moved next to his lady I could sense that she was totally not into this whole thing in the least. She did not touch me, talk, make a noise, or anything. She sat there like a lump on a log. So being the gentleman I am, I did not touch her any further since it was so obvious that she wasn't into the whole thing.


If everyone doesn't play in a situation where the agreement is a full-swap, playtime should end.


"I asked for the lights to be turned back on and got no response. His wife asked the same. Again, no response. All we could hear was moaning and splashing. Then my wife told the other guy, 'Hey, you know I'm upside down right. I can't breathe.' I could absolutely tell that she was being put in positions she wasn't comfortable with (I still had no idea what he was doing at this point), so I got up, said ok, this is over. We got the stupid little ball thing turned on, got out of the tub and said we were going home. The only reason I allowed it to go as far as I did was because I was completely under the assumption that my lady was having a decent time. But because the lights were out, I had no idea that she was not just like I was not and neither was his own lady.


"It wasn't until after we left that I got steaming mad because my wife told me that from the very second the lights went out, he was trying to get in her.  All that splashing I heard was him doing my lady while the whole time I thought it was just them playing around. The only reason I didn't turn around and beat the living shit out of him was because she said, 'Well it wasn't all bad.'  As long as she got something out of it, I was okay with chalking it up as just a bad experience for me."


This is a prime example of total swinger dysfunction.  When a couple makes the decision to be swingers, that decision needs to be mutual.  This couple seems to have made an agreement to play on the way to the other couple's house, but when only the female half of the couple got a little action, the male half became jealous.  All parties must be proactive when swinging.  It just doesn't work if two people are playing and two people are sitting there waiting for the other to make a move.


Sometimes swinger dates don't go well.  Personalities don't mesh, one person isn't attracted to another, one person is just creepy or someone reminds you of that guy in your office who picks his nose - whatever the reason it just happens.  If your relationship isn't stable enough to vocalize your unhappiness with the current swinging situation then you should never have become a swinger in the first place.


Do you have a question or a story you want to share?  Send me an email at [email protected] and I will be happy to respond!


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In "Swinger date gone wrong: part 1," we last left our fledgling swinger and his wife at a couple's house, stewing in a garage hot-tub illuminated only by a disco ball.

"Then he [the other husband] turned the lights out on the ball and said something to the effect of, 'This is what I call mystery hands'."

This line alone sounds incredibly creepy and if you aren't prepared for an all-hands-on-deck invasion of the bisexual kind then you should promptly excuse yourself from this garage jacuzzi party.

"For the next 10 minutes all I

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