The doctor is in (porn)

Will my acting choices hamper my future career?

I'm a single 24-year-old gay actor/singer/comedian who's going to be a doctor in a few years — I have varied interests — and I think being in a porn flick would be really hot. I don't know what the ramifications of ramming on cam could be with regard to my future career. The field I want to go into is a very specific burgeoning branch of medicine generally unrelated to sex, but still involving patient care, and I want to be on the cutting edge of this type of medicine. I don't know how much the world of medicine pays attention to this sort of thing when checking up on prospective doctors. Thoughts?

Wants To Film Lusty Orgasmic Lovin'

I don't know if appearing in porn will make going into medicine more difficult, WTFLOL, but it sure can fuck up a political career.

Sigh.

You know, for a few minutes it looked like Anthony Weiner was going to beat this thing. But the prudes and hypocrites — in Congress and the media — carried the day.

Back to you, WTFLOL: Considering the amount of time and money that you're going to invest in becoming a doctor, and considering the recent moral panic about a few stray dick pics, I would advise you to err on the side of not appearing in commercial porn, which would require you to show your face. But go ahead and show everything else on an amateur porn site like Xtube — just edit out any shots that show your face and don't let the camera linger on any distinguishing features (a distinctive tattoo that's visible when you're clothed, the parasitic twin that juts from your neck). And, hey, if you want to make porn, have it seen by thousands of people, not have it live forever online, and maybe win a big cash prize, you can enter HUMP!, my annual amateur porn festival. Details at www.humpseattle.com.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. A few years ago, he informed me that he was molested in high school by a teacher and was in a sexual relationship with this man until he met me. I don't have a problem with him being bisexual, but I do have a problem with him not having a problem with his molestation. He feels it was consensual; I feel this man preyed on him. He used to drink to avoid dealing with his emotions. He stopped drinking when he met me, but this secret causes him to have panic attacks. I help heal his wounds, but what do I get in return? Not what I want. I give him love and I accept him — and he tells me that he doesn't want kids and doesn't want to marry me. He also hardly touches me. We're better friends than lovers. If I leave him, he'll have no one. If I stay, I feel alone. We have fun and make each other laugh, so it's not all bad. But I'm pathetic, right?

Midwest Mess

I'm going to get slaughtered for this: There are people out there who have panic attacks and drinking problems, don't want to get married or have children, are cold, distant, withholding "lovers," etc., who weren't molested by high-school teachers or anybody else. I'm not saying that your boyfriend's history is unrelated to his other issues — I can't say that — but if he doesn't regard that relationship as the source of all his troubles, MM, you should stop insisting that he feel terrible/victimized/damaged because that's how you think he should feel.

Are you pathetic? No, MM, you're not. You're in a relationship that's not living up to your expectations, and it's making you unhappy. Now you have a big choice and a smaller subchoice to make: Either you can adjust your expectations and stay with this guy, MM, and try to appreciate the things he brings into your life, or you can refuse to adjust your expectations and 1. be miserable in this relationship or 2. leave this guy and get out there and find someone else or die trying.

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