The proposal: big weddings vs. small weddings

between a small or large wedding. Just remember that whatever size you pick the choice is made based on what you and your fiancé want rather than what your friends or family think is best. This is your day.

Small Wedding (0-100 Guest)

Pros: Weddings are supposed to be intimate and shared with close friends and family. When you have a small wedding you can accomplish this while having increased time with your guests to make them feel welcomed. With a small wedding you get plenty of extra time to sit with them, talk, and take pictures. This will also give you more time with your spouse, which is always a plus.

Small weddings lead to less stress planning and fewer worries over the tremendous cost of each additional guest.  The seating arrangement won't be difficult and you will have more options when picking a location (the beach, the forest, a destination wedding, or a nice restaurant).

Also, if you have a small wedding, you will feel less obligated to invite those acquaintances you don't really want to see at your wedding.

More money will be leftover to spend on your honeymoon, which is where the real magic happens.


The worst thing about small weddings is that you will potentially anger the family and friends who aren't invited.

You also will not feel justified in hiring a wedding planner, which may not be a bad thing if you are working with a budget and have the time to plan yourself.

You will also receive significantly fewer gifts, which translates to less traveling money for your honeymoon and fewer items off your registry. Of course, it also limits the number of fake crystal vases you get and the need to write thank you notes for this junk.

Big Weddings (150 + Guest)


The bigger the wedding the more family and friends you can invite, which means fewer angry relatives and coworkers.

Presents, presents, and more present? A girl will never complain about too many presents.

Who doesn't enjoy a good party? A wedding is a celebration, and it makes it easier to celebrate if there are a lot of people popping champagne and hitting the dance floor.


Bigger weddings requires more planning, which may necessity the hiring of a wedding planner. This isn't always a bad thing as a good wedding planner can save you money.

Money, money, and more money. The amount of money your spend on this wedding will be enough to put a significant down-payment on a house. An average price per couple at a banquet hall runs anywhere from $50-$150. You will have to buy more of everything as you have more people to accommodate.

The bigger the wedding the more people will offer their opinions. When planning a big wedding, it's easy to forget that the wedding should be about you.

[image-1]Me? What type of wedding do I want?

We want a small wedding, between 30-40 people at an intimate location with great food and decorations. I want the groom and all the groomsmen in Chucks (Converse). We also want an OPEN BAR and a big dance floor to rock out as a married couple. Most of my family live far away so after our wedding in St. Pete, we'll head to Miami and celebrate with the rest of my family.

I never knew it would be so difficult to plan a wedding but so far I think we both know exactly what we want and the fact that my fiancé is so helpful and generous eases my stress-levels even more. Regardless of how big and or small the wedding will be, it takes a lot of time and money to plan. Just always remember this is your big day so try to take it easy, breath, relax and enjoy it; if you do it right, it will be your only one.

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About a month ago my boyfriend took me to the most "magical" place on earth: The Magic Kingdom. After posing for a picture on the side of the castle, he got on one knee and told me how beautiful I was and that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. The moment I saw him pull out a ring, I nearly died. The man of my dreams, the love of my life, would soon be my husband. It really was the greatest day of my life, but now the reality of planning the next greatest day of my life is setting in.

When you first get engaged, you don’t even consider the stresses of planning a wedding because you're too busy calling everyone to let them know you're engaged. But then everyone you talk to starts asking what day you're going to get hitched, and a slow shock sets in as you realize just how much planning you have to do in a few short months.

Your dream wedding all depends on you, the dreamer. The first major decision you will make is

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