The slow death of ordinary sex?

I’ll admit I'm a big fan of reading about the swinger lifestyle and used sex swings here on CL but isn’t anyone just getting laid and loving it?  Everybody’s got their own thing, and that's great, but I’m here to say that an amazing night in the bedroom is still possible without any gimmicks.

The Rabid One's tips for great, normal, sex:

-I want to hold your hand: Get to the know the person you’re sleeping with.  If you just met a potential mate or sex buddy get to know them a little before getting it on.  Misjudging or ignoring someone’s personality is bound to cause awkwardness in the bedroom.

-Slow ride: Um, foreplay anyone?  The longer and hotter you tease one another builds sweet tension and leads to amazing orgasms, even from conventional sex positions.

-Changes in Latitudes, changes in attitudes:  If you always do the deed at her house or in your folk’s basement, get creative. Consider renting a room.  Little changes, scenery, positions, background music can all alter a situation.  The “same old” doesn’t have to be the same every time.

-Gimme! Gimme! Gimme!: When it comes to sex, is it all about you?  Are you a selfish lover? Give back every once in awhile.  Surprise the hell out of your lover.  Or, if you are more passive and are rarely selfish in bed, be a little more dominating.  Watch how hot your partner gets with the surprise that you’re not the same rodeo rider every go round.

-I believe in a thing called love:  This one isn’t easy to attain, but if you’re up for it, and have fallen in love with a partner, sex can be astronomically amazing.  If the person under you thinks you walk on water you’re going to feel like a God.  And, if you feel like Superman you’re going to have sex like Superman.

Believe it or not, sex can be amazing without a tag team partner, weapons, an audience, or anything illegal.  You just have to commit to it being amazing. Or maybe my regular sex life is just that amazing? Let me know.

Exactly when did ordinary sex became taboo?  What ever happened to the days of mind blowing sex with one partner who wasn't married to someone else or hanging from a death defying sex swing?  Have we evolved so much that sex itself isn’t good enough?

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