The obvious downside of not allowing children is that you will anger some of those kids' parents, many of who may not come or will have to hire a babysitter for the event. I can definitely understand why they would be upsetting, but I can't imagine the issue being a big enough one to make them skip my wedding entirely. This is Kevin's and my special day, so shouldnt we get what WE want? Shouldnt people be willing to make our "special" day less stressful?
The way we see it, having kids at the reception will only take time away from our guests' ability to enjoy the party and us. For example, we're getting married at Kevin's parent's house in the evening. They have a pool and a lake behind the house. Not to mention a great quantities of alcohol will be circulating. If children are allowed to come, instead of drinking and enjoying themselves, parents will constantly have to keep and eye on their children to keep them from falling in the pool or lake, or from toppling one of our expensive wedding decorations. If something breaks or a child smears cake on Kevin's parent's rug, we will feel responsible.
I'm not saying kids are a disaster, but they do have the potential to create a disaster. And for as much as I would like to think otherwise, wedding planning is partially about limiting the number of things that can go wrong. Children haven't learned patience; all they care about is running around and having fun. In fact, if asked I think most children would rather stay home than go to a wedding. In any case, if a moment as special as our first dance is audibly or physically invaded by kids, I may transform on the spot into a child devouring bridezilla.
We both feel this is our special day and we dont want anything to ruin it. I love children, and Kevin and I are rarely selfish, but for once we plan on putting our needs first. It's one of the hardest, and most unexpected, decisions Ive ever had to make. I know I will hurt some of my family and friends with this choice, but they also must know that one of the responsibilities of having children is knowing when to leave them behind.
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