Wedding planning: Kids or no kids, that is the question

The obvious downside of not allowing children is that you will anger some of those kids' parents, many of who may not come or will have to hire a babysitter for the event. I can definitely understand why they would be upsetting, but I can't imagine the issue being a big enough one to make them skip my wedding entirely. This is Kevin's and my special day, so shouldn’t we get what WE want? Shouldn’t people be willing to make our "special" day less stressful?

The way we see it, having kids at the reception will only take time away from our guests' ability to enjoy the party and us. For example, we're getting married at Kevin's parent's house in the evening. They have a pool and a lake behind the house. Not to mention a great quantities of alcohol will be circulating. If children are allowed to come, instead of drinking and enjoying themselves, parents will constantly have to keep and eye on their children to keep them from falling in the pool or lake, or from toppling one of our expensive wedding decorations. If something breaks or a child smears cake on Kevin's parent's rug, we will feel responsible.

I'm not saying kids are a disaster, but they do have the potential to create a disaster. And for as much as I would like to think otherwise, wedding planning is partially about limiting the number of things that can go wrong. Children haven't learned patience; all they care about is running around and having fun. In fact, if asked I think most children would rather stay home than go to a wedding. In any case, if a moment as special as our first dance is audibly or physically invaded by kids, I may transform on the spot into a child devouring bridezilla.

We both feel this is our special day and we don’t want anything to ruin it. I love children, and Kevin and I are rarely selfish, but for once we plan on putting our needs first. It's one of the hardest, and most unexpected, decisions I’ve ever had to make. I know I will hurt some of my family and friends with this choice, but they also must know that one of the responsibilities of having children is knowing when to leave them behind.

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As much as my fiance Kevin and I love our family and all the little tykes in it, we all know that an otherwise perfect day, such as your wedding, can be tarnished by screaming or misbehaving children. When planning your wedding, the question of inviting or banning kids is a legitimate and difficult one. If you don't mind kids at your wedding then you will have no difficulty incorporating them into your big day. However, if you're like Kevin and I, deciding how to manage children during your pending nuptials is a complicated one.

A few weeks ago my best friend Amber asked, "Are you inviting children to your wedding?" I hadn't even realized this was one of my wedding planning options. I had no clue, but it was an issue I would have to discuss with Kevin before our invitations went out.

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