Are you married and dating?

While most swingers may consider their lifestyle a dating lifestyle; typically swingers go on dates with their spouses.  Another growing trend in the great world of alternative lifestyles is married but dating.  Many will call this a poly-type relationship.  I view a poly relationship as someone that you may see often and not a random hook up.  I'm sure there will be many who disagree with this definition, but this is my view.

I frequently receive emails with questions of how to date while married.  Do you tell the other person your real name?