“Hi Dream Momma,
I had this dream last night. I dreamt I was overweight, wearing edible nacho overalls with cheese leggings, and that I was in my elementary school gym. Even though there was an all-you-can-eat buffet right next to me, I instead nibbled on the chest of my nacho clothes. There was an Asian family selling sushi from one of the gym's wall, but they wouldn't let me have any because they had an "alpha dog style takeout", and they told me I had to get someone else to get the food for me. Undeterred, I went back to the buffet and licked some cheese from my legs. I then noticed that everyone was staring at me. Suddenly I thought, "Just go with it," and began strip dancing on a pole that just magically appeared. Everyone laughed and went on about their business, and I woke up.”
Dream Momma is impressed with this symbolic dream of both independence and self-nurturing (eating your own clothes). It is loaded with so many food images she is getting hungry just reading it. Now in the dream you function solely on your own. You ignore the all-you-can-eat buffet (a symbol of plenty) and choose another form of symbolic food that is denied you because you are not an alpha-dog. What perversity is going on here anyway? Eat your clothes, ignore the buffet, and seek something unavailable. Sounds like Mary, Mary, quite contrary. Dream Momma also wonders who you might ask to get the food. Not that you would of course but, just for a second imagine who you would ask, if you would ask anyone at all.
Now usually when we act perversely it is a guise for something deeper. Dream Momma wonders if you were chubby as a child or used food to deal with feelings of loneliness or social isolation. Hard to say but even your remarkable strip dance doesn’t turn too many heads but what it does do is take the heat off (people laughed).
Dream Momma suggests you revisit your childhood via journaling and write about all the times you said to yourself, “Just go with it,” and the feelings that preceded that thought. If the word lonely appears more than once Dream Momma suggests you open yourself up to friendship when and wherever you can.
Dream Momma
This article appears in Feb 24 – Mar 2, 2011.