“Dear Dream Momma, I was at the house where I grew up and I heard a knock on the back door. When I opened the door my sister and father (who has been deceased for four years) were standing there. My sister said, "J, Dad has decided he wants to live in Pennsylvania again." (that's where my dad grew up). So I let them in and we were sitting in my old bedroom (which later became my mother's room and where she died) at the house and for some reason there was a man in the room who apparently was the cab driver who had driven my dad and sister to the house. This man was talking nonstop but I can't remember what he was saying. It didn't seem to be anything important -he was just blathering on and keeping us from having a conversation. Suddenly one of my nephews was also in the room and he interrupted the cab driver and said "Here's $10 now why don't you beat it." Or something to that effect. And that was the end of the dream. It was never stated but I felt like there was a sense that my sister and I were humoring my dad because we knew he couldn't go live in Pennsylvania because he was dead. My dad never said anything through the whole dream.
Something about this dream makes me very sad.”
This dream makes Dream Momma sad too. It is a dream about family secrets, unfinished business, and inner turmoil. Using Gestalt theory (the dreamer is everyone and sometimes everything in a dream) it makes this dream easier to understand. For example, if the sister represents a segment of the dreamers unconscious then what she is doing in the dream is in effect saying, “Hey sis here’s Dad, let’s deal with him.” The cab driver who brings this conflict to the forefront is the male energy in the dreamer (animus) and is so anxious (dreamers conflict) that the dreamer can’t listen to HERSELF. Then a nephew, a low-level male shadow figure or saboteur, enters the scene and ends the conflict resolution. Too bad.
That’s the analysis, now what to do? Dream Momma has this advice. Hunker down with your sister and pray that both of you have the courage to get very honest and share childhood memories, especially where it concerns your father. This will be a painful but incredibly liberating experience. It will free you from your conflict and bring clarity and truth into your psyche. The dream loves you Sad Dreamer and, like a good mom, wants only what’s best for you. Listen up.
Dream Momma
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Watch for the book, The Dream belongs to the Dreamer, Winter, 2010
This article appears in May 27 – Jun 2, 2010.