Dreaming of lovers in the laundry room

The other notable thing is the fact that your lover is very intimate. He sneaks in, gets in your bed, whispers to you, etc. Now this is NOT your lover, this is YOU and all the thoughts you comfort yourself with  and fantasize about because of your marital estrangement.


Finally, the fact that all of this plays out around a laundry room, a place that cleans things, is important. The toilet implies a purging. This means YOU must come clean with your husband, not necessarily about your actions, as actions are never as damaging to marriage as reoccurring thoughts that lead to emotional alienation.


Dream Momma happens to believe that marriages end not because of a fling or affair but because of persistent, alienating thoughts that are never verbalized or dealt with within the marriage.


Your fears in the dream are important. They tell Dream Momma that you DO care about your marriage, so get going before you’re the only one in the laundry room.


Dream Momma


“Dream Momma, I am a 45-year-old, married, black female professional living in Tampa. I have been having an online “affair,” if you will call it that, for 3 years with a white man. My husband, who is also a professional, travels a lot with his job. I have met my online lover, and although we have shared embraces, we have not shared a bed.

This dream begins with me on my bed and my husband in the sitting room that is off our bedroom. There is a curtain there, so I cannot actually see him but I hear him as he moves about. He is watching TV. My lover enters my bedroom wearing just a long tee shirt and crawls onto the bed with me. I am not surprised to see him; it is as if he does this often. He snuggles up behind me and is very amorous. I am watching the crack in the curtain. I suggest that we go to another room.

We go the bathroom that is just beyond my laundry room. There is a cot set up for him. He apparently stays here often. But the washer has been moved into the bathroom and I am concerned that my husband will come into this room to tend to the washer. So I am emptying the washer and taking clothes from the toilet(?) that appear to be clean. I am trying frantically to stay ahead of my husband in thought.

I hear him come into the laundry room and he is doing something with the dryer. My lover is starting to say something and I am signaling him not to talk but he continues to whisper. My husband is close enough that I could touch him if there were no wall and I am almost crazed that I can’t seem to make my lover understand that he should not talk AT ALL.

He finally makes me understand that he has left his belt out in the house somewhere. He thinks maybe my bedroom, and he is not sure where his pants are. My head is about spin off as I try to imagine where he might have left his things and if I can get to them before my husband sees them - as they are not the same body types and do not share a sense of style. Help me understand this dream please.” (sic)

Dream Momma will try. The first thing that is of significance is the fact that whenever your husband appears in the dream there is something concrete between you (a curtain, a wall). That is important. It means there IS something between you in real, waking, life that is interfering with marital intimacy (and Dream Momma doesn’t mean just sex).

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