It may surprise you to know that my boyfriend, The Puppy, and I enjoy different things in bed. Not “he likes it rough, she likes it slow” types of differences – I’m talking different fetishes and kinks. Some of our friends do not believe that we ever have this problem. They tell me their own experiences with lovers who only wanted sex if it was in the dark, missionary, and slow, when they (my friends) wanted it hard and fast, with the lights on. For most of them, the differences in the bedroom led to their break-ups. But The Puppy and I have been together for years. We’ve been dubbed “the most married, unmarried couple I know” by more than one friend. We make people want to hurl because we’re so head over stupid for each other. How in the world could such a couple possibly have issues in the bedroom? So, for all of the other couples who have ever been there, here is our story…
This article appears in Jun 17-23, 2009.