How to be a swinger: it’s not the way, it’s my way!

"I want to be a swinger!" people tell me constantly.

They all want to know how to get into the lifestyle, as if it was like joining a secret league of ninjas. After reading about my more adventurous exploits, many want to step into my high heels and fuck like bunnies every weekend.  But, the truth is there's no 'method' for becoming a swinger. You don't have to go through a hazing process that involves spankings or binge drinking.  Truthfully, complete sexual freedom is a myth; no swingers fuck like bunnies every weekend.

Without an actual step-by-step guide, how do you know where to start?  The first step is discussing your interest with your spouse or significant other. It's not advisable just to take her to a swinger's party and let her

This article appears in Aug 5-11, 2010.