Ori and Rom Brafman recently published, Click: the Magic of Instant Connections, which breaks down the science of why and how people form quick-set intimacies. This series of entries for The Libertine's Guide to Gallantry re-frames their principles in terms of strategies for making instant love connections.
Many people describe clicking with strangers in the exact words cocaine users describe their highs: it's exciting and thrilling—-they feel more alive, engaged, and in touch with themselves and their surroundings. When we click romantically, our minds respond similarly to when we're on stimulants. Our brains are flooded with
This article appears in Aug 5-11, 2010.