been in a few bedrooms over the years and I’m always amazed by the sounds that come out of overly excited sex partners, either with me or in the bed next to me. Everyone responds differently to sex, orgasm, and excitement, but how much of that noise is genuine and how much is put on for show?
I am not an overly noisy person during sex. I don’t really talk loudly about the dirty deeds I want you to do to me. You could say I am more of a sexual whisperer. If you were having sex with me you might experience my hot breath in your ear, whispering whatever comes to mind in my sexiest voice. Although, sometimes I find myself being just silly in bed and clowning around during sex. Unfortunately this might be at your expense — sorry. But, if you’re lucky enough to hear me raise my voice a bit, grind out a few words in a deep tone, you are probably hurting me, and well, at the moment it might be a good thing.
What about everyone else? I have encountered many that are quite noisy during sex. I don’t know for certain if the screams are sincere, an attempt to make an impression on someone else, or the screamer just likes to be the center of attention in a room full of swingers.
I have heard women moan, scream, and swear, whether the guy is hung like a horse or a dachshund. There’s no direct correlation between volume and size. In comparison, I have been with men who are totally into the moment, so much so that they sound like a moaning woman. Others have turned into a verbal freak asking me if I am his whore and if I have been bad. I admit that sometimes all of this turns me on, but only in the right moment. If you don’t know when or what that moment is – you better figure it out quick!
In general, most people let the freak out of the closet in bed. Since this is the time and place for your inner freak to emerge, normally this is fine. So where does that leave me – not a screamer, maybe a slight moaner, but mostly you’ll know if I am pleased by the movement of my body rather than what sounds I make.
What noises come out of your bedroom? What do you sound like in bed and what do you like to hear from your partner?
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This article appears in Oct 8-14, 2009.
