"Dear Dream Momma, I'm a professional from Tampa and had a long, complicated dream last night that realy upset me. It's too long to describe here but the part that I can't get out of my mind is when I am deeply kissing this man. He is blond, well-built, and playful. Just the kind of man I dream of meeting. We are really into each other when suddenly he pushes me away saying I've got lipstick on his shirt. It was a tee shirt not a dress shirt. In the dream I start to apologize and look for something to wipe it off. Then I wake up. When I thought about this later I really got angry at myself for apologizing instead of getting upset he led me on with his clever tongue in my mouth. As I write this to you I'm both excited and angry. Can you help me get past this?" (sic)
Dream Momma will gladly help you as she suspects this is a painful wake up call about an incomplete Oedipal (or should I say, for females, Electra ) complex.
This article appears in Jan 13-19, 2010.