Large groups of women are often avoided by insecure men. To men on the hunt, these clusters are akin to herds of gazelles: their number often makes it difficult to separate one from the pack. Also, one woman often positions herself as the prude governess, protecting the eligible bachelorettes by turning potential suitors away with a cold scowl or a snarky comment. It wasn't until I started doing promotions for Creative Loafing at locals bars that I realized groups of women can actually be easier to approach than individuals, but this maneuver involves a bit more cunning. Here are a few things to consider before negotiating your way into a circle of female friends.
Play the odds: While every woman in a group won't find your stuttering pick-up attempt charming, one or two may laugh at your Chuck Norris joke. In fact, unless you're prepared to entertain the entire group with your limited arsenal of dance moves, you'll be better off pairing off with the one or two who are actually interested in talking to you. Also, even if you're a blundering fool, the group may tolerate your presence as each female may assume one of the other women likes you.
This article appears in Feb 10-16, 2010.